where is your list?

So, I watched the movie again last week!

many vivid images remain on my mind after watching the movie...felt like making my own bucket list this morning. it is not yet completely done as yet, though. I dont know whether it should be 6 or 10 or 20. Anyway, numbers are definitely on my mind and would love to have around 10 things to do before I meet Joe Black.

1.witness something truly majestic

2.visit all the seven wonders of the world

3.get my photograph published in a book of repute

4.write a book (not necessarily a best-seller!)

5.let someone else have the chance that i missed

6.learn to play the guitar well

7.

8.

9.

10.

Go ahead, make your own list before your make your will!

Note : For all the married ones and living in this techie world - pls ensure that you share your password with your spouse. Whether it is an online trading site or the banking a/c or your email account.
Yeah, you can add this to your bucket list!!
:-)

what do you believe in?

what do you believe in?


many believe in everything that others say...
some won't believe in anything unless they hear, see or experience it themselves...
a few won't believe in anything unless it is proven (the scientific mind?)...
some would believe in santa claus...
a few would want to believe in things that suits them (wishful thinking?!)...
some believe in UFOs and all things supernatural (film makers believe in them)...
many believe that they would never be happy in life...
some believe that their near and dear ones truly love them...
many would believe in god...
many believe that there is indeed a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow...
a few believe in the 'tooth fairy'!
some believe that time heals everything...
many believe in everything they imagine..!!
many believe that hope is truly eternal...
some believe that a belief system can lead them to salvation...
many believe that life can be a little less complex...
some believe that it doesn't take much to help a total stranger...
some would believe in the existence of a superior force...
a few believe that happiness can be found in the little things of life...
many believe that life is like a conveyor belt...
anyway,looks like it would only be me who would believe that the usage of 'some/many/a few' in the above is absolutely correct...!!

in the midst of all this, you find someone who asks if 'you believe in love after love'?
:-)

so, what do you believe in?

Cant buy me love - Does the Beatles song hold true now?

Till downturn does us apart...?!

Read this about divorce feares in London...

Another article on the same subject as above...

While the Trophy Wives chart a exit strategy?

And in the midst of all these, how the bachelors are coping up and should they worry?

while the song goes in the background -

"'cause i don't care too much for money, money can't buy me love"

Beatles - Cant buy me love

:-)

a little more conversation, a little more persistence

We vent out our emotions with a friend.

We speak to those who we know cant solve the issue.

We open out to those who are not in any position to intervene(apart from telling them everything, we ask them not to do anything about it).

Why?

When do we stop communicating with the ones who matter? the one with whom we have a problem that needs to be addressed?

Is the issue with the mode of communication or the tone of communication. We tend to write a letter to the person who is there right next to us or send email to the person we spend our days with.

We fear confrontation, we avoid conflicts ( wont work all the time ) and we fear the outcome...

The details we provide, the way we narrate....The hours of discussion we have with a friend, we dont spend even 10-20% of that with the one with whom we have the issue, the one we love.

I believe self-awareness coupled with responsibility is a crucial ingredient.Also the realization that you can change your behaviour to make the other person change.

when do we stop talking?
when do we stop persisting?
when did anything else become more important than the relationship, the love?
when do we realize that we have built a wall?
what do we keep waiting for?

A tiny bulb goes out somewhere in a magnificient array of glimmerling lights and we dont notice that.soon, another one go off elsewhere... gradually...

What stops us from taking a step back from the emotions of issues and instead focus on finding positive, practical solutions?

Speak to the person with whom you have an issue, a problem. Communicate, talk to them. Not with others who cant do anything about it and pretty soon they are gonna just hear out for the sake of it.

Would like to quote a few from that wonderful book, Notes To Myself -

For communication to have meaning it must have a life. It must transcend

"you and me"

and become

"us"

. If I truly communicate, I see in you a life that is not me and partake of it. And you see and partake of me. In a small way we then grow out of our old selves and become something new. To have this kind of sharing I cannot enter a conversation clutching myself. I must enter it with loose boundaries. I must give myself to the relationship, and be willing to be what grows out of it.


I must do these things in order to communicate: Become aware of you (discover you). Make you aware of me (uncover myself). Be ready to change during our conversation.And be willing to reveal my changes to you.

making sense out of everything

your fav team lost out on a game
you messed up on a very important task at work
you are now a stranger to your best friend
you have no idea why someone is giving you a hard time
.........

and the list could go on, depending on which side of the coin turned up against you...

so, what do you do? how important or how disappointing is the loss of your fav team in that game than you messing up at work or losing the best friend? Is that the question? I feel the question that we most of the time ask is - WHY?

no matter how a certain has incident has impacted us, we tend to find answers.More than figuring about what are the answers, I would like to think about why do we attempt to find answers?

I believe that the answers are there, right before our eyes where we dont want to look. Is reasoning out just a case of "discovery of these answers". I feel it should be, and not an exercise in the invention of answers. Its only Mathematics which can provide definite answers because they can be PROVED.

what are we gonna do about it? this is a much wider topic with varying conclusions...would like to stick to this one for now -

making sense out of it all. the act of reasoning out.

Quite often, its suffice to understand that certain things are beyond your control and accept them as they have happened. If you were honest, if your intentions were unquestionable and if you have tried to the best of your ability, thats all you need to know. Thats all you need to assure yourselves of.

If we really need to go beyond this and reason out, then lets be aware of these pitfalls while doing so -

Circular reasoning

Analysis paralysis

Lets not become self-indulgent while doing so and always remember that no matter how hard we try and what we do about it...we are finally drawing our own conclusions. And thats how it would stay...

Each one to his version...each one to his own reason...each one paddling to his own shore..

So, why have I posted this one? What running inside my head now? What has happened now that I havent told u gus about? you are trying to reason out?
Good....!!
;-)